No one can know, farmboy

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No, no. Absolutely not. I cannot leave this bullshit alone.

It’s so amazing that you are here because of your mother’s horrible experience and yet are not totally messed up because of it. That kind of strength is exceptional. I think we can all agree on this.

But no one thinks you’re better off dead, because you are a person. Your mother chose to give birth to you, and you’re here now. When you were a fetus, no one was going to ask your opinion, because you didn’t have one. The consequences of rape are never a blessing in disguise.

Do not assume that others in the same situation should tough it out like your family has managed to do. That is arrogant, narrow minded, and undermines the very real trauma that victims of rape experience.

Actually if you look at the negative of rape it’s going to get you nowhere. I found my husband because of what happened to me. He was there for me when no one else was and we ended up falling in love. Out of every bad situation comes good not everyone is so pessimistic about what happens to them.

I’ll try this again, because maybe I wasn’t clear.

If a person has the strength to make good after a situation like rape, they are the exception. You cannot tell just anyone, “Don’t worry too much about getting raped because something good will come out of it!”

One of my dearest friends was raped and ‘pessimistic’ is not the word I would use to describe how she feels about it. That is an extreme understatement. It’s years later, and if you ask her now, not a damn good thing happened to her as a result of some shit head violating her. Doesn’t matter that she’s in a healthy place now. Doesn’t matter that she doesn’t have any visible lasting trauma.

Not every one is so optimistic about what happens to them, nor should they be expected to be.